Family caregivers often find themselves in the position of trying to please too many people and finding that they are pleasing no one. If you recognize yourself in that description, it’s time to figure out how to step away from that ideal of perfection in caregiving.
You Can Only Do So Much
No matter how much time and energy you devote to caregiving, you really can only do so much on your own. You’re only one person. But you can enlist the help of other people, family members and senior care providers, to help you out. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, getting help is one of the best things that you can do in order to feel more in control of the situation.
People Will Find Fault
If you went into caregiving thinking that everyone would acknowledge what you’re doing, you’re probably disappointed. No matter how much you do for your loved one, other people are going to find some degree of fault with what you’re doing or how you’re doing everything. Accept that, because unfortunately you can’t change it.
You’re Not Perfect
Everyone wants to be the best caregiver that they can be for their elderly loved ones. What they don’t always take into account is that you’re not a perfect person and you’re going to make mistakes. You don’t want to, of course, but they’re going to happen. Beating yourself up isn’t going to fix that. Perfectionism can actually hold you back from doing your best because you freeze up and try too hard.
Do What You Can and Let it Go
Resolve to yourself that you’re going to be doing the best that you can with the resources that you have. After that, you’ll have to let it go. You won’t make everybody happy all of the time and that has to be okay. If you’re having trouble giving up your perfectionistic tendencies, it might be time to talk to a counselor or a therapist who can help you do so.
It’s not all about making other people happy, of course, but it’s about doing what you can for your elderly loved one.
If you or an aging loved one are considering senior care in Alexandria, VA, contact the caring staff at Access Home Care Inc. Proudly Serving Northern Virginia and Surroundings for over 12 years. Call Us: (703) 765-9350
“My desire to enter into nursing started when one of my older sisters died of kidney disease due to lack of care. At age 15, I decided to enter into nursing so that I could provide quality care to patients.Upon arrival in United States at 21 years of age, I enrolled in T.C Willliams School of Practical Nursing while working as a nursing assistant at a nursing home. I also worked as a part-time home health aide to take of the elderly. After completion of my practical nurse education, I worked in geriatric psychiatry unit at Dominion Hospital and Arlington Correctional facility mental health unit.
I completed Marymount University in 2001 and entered into Home Care as a field case manager.
I held that position for 2 years and as an Administrator, and for another 2 years until Access Home Care was found in 2004."
Today, Access Home Care has over 300 employees and 286 clients.